I recently trimmed my hair when I was on holiday overseas. I only had a little trim to tidy it up but even stepping into the hairdresser has been a point of serious discussion. My hair has been a topic of our marriage for a long time now.
“Do you think I should cut my hair?” I always ask my husband.
“Honest opinion?” My husband would ask cautiously.
“Yeah, of course,” I always reply. I’m tough enough for an honest opinion ahem.
“Well… I hate when your hair is short or even shoulder length. It makes you look so much older and more mature… Like a mum.”
“Well, I AM a mum! And it’s my hair, not yours, why do you try to control it all? And why do you have to be such an ass?!” I retort, flaring up like one pissed off woman.
“But you wanted my honest opinion??!” answers the poor, confused man.
We have had this repeated conversation over and over again through the years. He hates me with short or shorter hair but I feel like I want a refreshing change… yet, like many women (I think), I like to ask my husband’s honest opinion and get annoyed with it.
I ask myself what I would rather: The ‘model’ reply of “Darling, it’s your hair, you can do whatever you want as long as you are comfortable and happy.” or his honest opinion?
Obviously, the first one sounds perfect and is something I could definitely work with.
Yet I would also like to have his honest opinion because I want to know what my husband thinks.
The dilemma….
Just another one of those things in a marriage… 🙂
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Hard question – hard answer.
I didn’t have a choice when I was facing chemo. I know it is no comparison but I know my husband preferred long hair and so did I.
Now I love my short hair (grown back) and I wish I’d taken the CUT sooner.
Just do it, express yourself and let him get used to the new you.
Sorry to hear that Trish but thanks for sharing x I think it’s a nice way to look at it: just do it and let him get used to the new me!
I get this, my husband likes my hair long, I like it short…..
There must be something with men and long hair.. I hear this very often.. 🙂
I hate when you say something like “I look fat” and the man replies “Don’t worry.” That’s when I really do worry!
Men are a little hopeless in that dept. I am being generous with the little too…!
Haha I agree! Yet I sometimes do feel sorry for them because they get it tough whichever way they answer lol
lol. As much as we ask for our husbands’ honest opinion, we always prefer a little white lie. Sometimes I wish my husband wasn’t so honest.
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Haha 🙂 I’m still undecided on what I prefer actually.. definitely stumped by this little dilemma lol
*giggles* I don’t ask husbands opinion any more, I haven’t for a long time.
If I want to chop my hair, I just do it. I figure he’ll get used to it!
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I should do just that! My husband will whinge about it though. I had shoulder length hair through my pregnancy and he reminded me all the time that my hair was too short.
Or you could look at as this.
At least he takes notice.
And at least he cares enough to form an opinion. The great thing about hair is it grows back. And luckily, hair does not make the person.
That’s what I always tell my husband, that it’ll grow back anyway!
Ah I totally get where you are coming from. I’m the exact same. I think what’s frustrating is the idea of WHY isn’t his honest opinion “you should do whatever you want as it’s your hair.” But at the same time, at least he is being honest in what he finds attractive about you and your hair! It’s tough!
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Haha! Exactly! It would be great if that was his honest opinion 😉 Yeah I do appreciate the honesty at the same time. It’s a little conflicting..
I don’t know if I have ever asked A what he thinks I should do with my hair but, given how drastic my hair styles have been (in comparison to the exisiting one) – I don’t think he would be game to say one way or the other – BUT he does always notice when I have had something done to my hair and generally does like it.
Have a great day and good luck with resolving the issue !!!
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Oh so curious now about your drastic hair styles! Any pics? 🙂 At the moment, I just meet him in the middle by trimming a little but not going above my shoulders.
You think that is a marital issue. My husband wont let me do botox.
CLASSIC Mandy, my husband HATES it when I get my long hair cut too – what is it with men and SHORT HAIR!!! My hubby recently told me my boobs had deflated since I’d lost weight, GOOD ONE HUBBY!! xx
What’s with over-honest hubbys!? My husband gives me such Kind and Honest feedback that I don’t ask for! lol
When I once asked what he thought of my new haircut, he said he liked it better before. It caused such an argument that now when I ask him, and he says he likes it, we both laugh, because I’ll never, ever know if he does or not!!
Haha that’s so cute!! Maybe that’s just the best way out… just laugh about it! x
I only ask opinions as a polite thing to make conversation, I do it my way as I a usually right!
Yes Ann, they need to remember we’re always right!! 😉 😉
Oh it’s so hard cause you want to be respectful too!
Boatman prefers it long, but in the past when I have said I would really like to cut it, he has been on board and then loved it. It’s hard though.